this changes everything oh my god
do you understand why it trips me out that people can drive 45 minutes and be in aNOTHER COUNTRY?
I drive for 45 minutes and im likea city over
I CAN’T EVEN DRIVE FOR 45 MINUTES AND BE IN ANOTHER STATE.
So yeah, when you say “I’ve been to like 23 countries!!!!” and they’re all European and you lived in Europe your entire life THIS IS WHY I SHOUT “EUROPE DOESN’T COUNT” and start counting in continents. 3 down, people!
(Source: time-for-maps)
The only problem being that we would have to entirely change the way we bury people. People would have to be buried farther apart, taking up more space, or some of these people’s trees would die, and nobody wants that. Also, in different climates, the trees might just die off anyway, like here in Alberta, because the soil can’t support that many trees. Basically, it’s complicated.
You can choose what kind of tree you want to become
Idk I just find this beautiful
just imagine cemeteries looking like this
a forest of living, changing, beautiful trees. I think a tombstone holds much more finality in death than a tree. It’s like you are living on symbolically through something greater than yourself.
But you *can* be burried anywhere, and choose a tree, shrub, or other plant appropriate for the climate there. :3
On a side note, I’ve decided how I want my body disposed of when I die!
to talk about cat stuff, and the very good news is: it’s not contagious
It had something to do with my grandma’s cat not producing cells in his marrow. He was anaemic, but it wasn’t leukaemia or HIV, and it’s not contagious.
The bad news: It was probably hereditary, and my uncle’s cat is my grandma’s cat’s auntie, and we don’t know which line it was passed through.
So we’re just gonna take both of them (my uncle’s cat and my cat) to the vet next month and get them tested, even though my cat has no relation. Because now I’m worried, and I definitely want him tested before I get him down here. :( And he also needs his shots, which I can’t afford hahahaaaa…
So fingers crossed, and if my writing seems jumbled, it’s because I’m a bit distracted from this and all that other shit I’ve been alluding to in vague text posts and facebook statuses over the past few weeks or so. :|
Okay. But here’s the thing: Most cis hetrom aces don’t have full straight person privilege! A lot will actually feel alienated and some may feel broken because, get this, they are not actually straight people! (And don’t even get me started on aromantic people because also guess what, I am not straight, I have never felt straight, and I sure as suger-fucking don’t have straight privilege if I am open about my sexuality, which I am! I do everything but wear I AM ASEXUAL shirts, and that’s only because I don’t have one.)
So when you claim that hetrom straight aces coming into queer spaces is just like straight cis people coming into queer spaces, you are making a comparison that is not actually accurate. If you want to fight with me over this, just consider that a heteroromantic cis asexual married couple were denied adoption rights because of their sexuality. That? That is not straight privilege. That is not straight people. That is not what straight people experience. So while I do understand your worry about “straight” people in queer spaces, it stands that hetrom aces are not straight.
Nobody is claiming that you don’t experience oppression. You’re right. You don’t have sexual privilege. And that really sucks. That doesn’t make it okay to appropriate the word queer. It has a history. It’s a reclaimed slur. It can’t mean the same thing to the cishet ace community and it’s really insulting to claim as much. Certainly there can be spaces where we all interact as part of a broader community who have non-normative sexualities and gender expressions, but that doesn’t mean non-cishet people don’t need their own safe spaces.
Thank you, this is a very respectful post.
I think most of the disagreement comes from definitions of the word, and I do understand that by that definition, hetrom aces are not queer. But not everyone goes by that definition, not even within the queer community - it puts aces in this weird position where some people recognize all aces as queer, some only recognize non-hetrom aces, and some just won’t have aces at all. While I respect that as someone who doesn’t use the label it is not mine to define, if the meaning is so fluid at this point in time, what are we to do?
I personally believe that if hetrom and arom aces are allowed in queer spaces, they do need to be respectful, especially hetrom, because they will have different experiences than other queer people. Hetrom in particular have to recognize that their relationships will, for the most part, seem “normal” to outsiders, just like a bi/pansexual with a partner not of their gender will seem “normal.”
What if I said that people have used “queer” as a slur against me because I’m not interested in people?
More accurately, many of them assumed I was gay, which is something that happens a lot, but I have also expressed the fact that I was not interested (this was before I had lovely words like asexual and aromantic to describe myself) and been called queer.
So yeah, I am reclaiming queer. And so are you. Let’s be friends! Or allies, at least.
(And for the record, I currently identify as aro, and at one point did identify as hetrom, and am ace and cis)
I WANT AN ARO LOVE SONG.
THIS MAKES NO SENSE AND I DON’T CARE.
that I’m not even sure who brought up…but I’ve seen it everywhere since I came to America.
The idea of throwing away your current life to just jump into your car and drive off with the top down towards nowhere. Stay at cheap motels, have an adventure in the wilderness, go rock climbing or something, and fuck all responsibilities to the people that you left behind. Doesn’t that sound amazing?
No.
I hate traveling. I hate having the wind in my face, whipping my hair around to such a tangled mess that I’d literally want to kill someone. I hate cheap motels with dirty everything. I hate camping out and not being able to sleep or lose alertness because I fucking hate bugs. I hate leaving behind my life like that and going off.
I don’t understand these people who want “adventure”
Personally, I think of “an adventure” as trying something new, experiencing something new, or going somewhere new, even if I don’t actually know what. Looking for my classes on campus, finding a new store, trying a new food at a new place, or they can be experiencing a new country, or randomly going hiking in the woods one day.
Snow cup was a total adventure, because it was fairly spontaneous, somewhere I’d never been before, and my first big tournament, carpooling with people I barely knew, staying with someone I’d never even talked to before, etc.,.
Relay for Life was an adventure, because it was my first time sleeping outside, and on a track (I don’t suggest it), and in a tent. Especially a 2 person tent with 4 people.
I love my adventures, and they (usually) never last extremely long, but going with a friend or alone to somewhere new is always fun. I love my adventures, and wish I could have more of them. :)
