— I can’t believe I have to explain this but Why the Chloroform “joke” isn’t funny and why other rape “jokes” aren’t either in response to recent shit in the quidditch community
“Does this rag smell like chloroform to you?”
No, it smells like misogyny.
So on why this “bad pickup line” and other rape jokes aren’t funny….
- Rape jokes perpetuate rape culture.
And what is rape culture? From here.
A rape culture is a complex of beliefs that encourages male sexual aggression and supports violence against women. It is a society where violence is seen as sexy and sexuality as violent. In a rape culture, women perceive a continuum of threatened violence that ranges from sexual remarks to sexual touching to rape itself. A rape culture condones physical and emotional terrorism against women as the norm.
Rape jokes like the above perpetuate rape culture by making violence against women seem the “norm”. Like that’s the “normal” way to be sexy or to pick up chicks, or what have you.
When you say a joke like that, especially in a singles page of people you regularly meet and hang out with, some of whom once a week to three times a week, you are making many, many of us feel uncomfortable. You’re basically saying to us “Hey I think rape is funny!” when we’re sitting there literally and/or figuratively screaming in terror. When some of us have been raped. When most of us walk in fear. When 1 in 6 of the women and 1 in 33 of the men reading your comments will be raped or have already been raped.
Most people who are raped will be raped by people like you
No seriously, exactly like you.
From RAINN (Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network)
Approximately 2/3 of rapes were committed by someone known to the victim.1
73% of sexual assaults were perpetrated by a non-stranger.1
38% of rapists are a friend or acquaintance.1
28% are an intimate.1
7% are a relative.1
So 73% OF SEXUAL ASSAULTS ARE COMMITTED BY SOMEONE THE VICTIM KNOWS.
SEVENTY THREE PERCENT.
So in our 1 in 6 (17%) of women and 1 in 33 (3%) of men figures, 73% of those rapes will be someone they know.
20% of the quidditch community will be raped, have been raped, or have been the victims of attempted rape, and 73% of those rapes will be by someone like you. I’m not saying that all of those rapes will be committed by other quidditch players, but seeing as how quidditch players make up a majority of many of our social circles, some of them are bound to be.
“But I care about women!” they said, “I’m only joking!” they said, “No one actually thinks it’s okay to rape!” they said
“I’m not an actual rapist!” said the rapist.
6% of the men surveyed in this study actually admitted to rape… as long as the dreaded “r” word isn’t used. (Here’s a more in-depth link to the same thing plus another study that says 13% — see also this and this)
YOUR RAPE JOKES NORMALIZE RAPE AND MAKE IT SEEM OKAY. YOU ARE CONTRIBUTING TO RAPE CULTURE.
I’m going to end with this glorious quote, which puts it in far better words than I ever could, which explains how your joke makes me and billions like me actually, physically, unsafe. (from here)
When rapists engage in sex acts without bothering to gain their sex partner’s consent, they are not “accidentally” raping someone. Rapes don’t come from miscommunication. They are not isolated, unpreventable incidents. They are a product of institutionalized, reinforced, life-long privilege. They are the symptoms of a flaw in the rapist’s entire worldview. They are the product of the way the rapist has habitually devalued women, laid claim to the bodies of others, pursued what he wants no matter what—and never thought anything of it because he has never been called on it. That’s not an accident. That’s a system.
And that’s exactly what your “joke” is contributing to.
So Tyler Tarzan Gossfrom the University of South Florida, and Blaine Falone, also of the University of South Florida:
Get your misogynistic, rape culture shit out of my community. You are not welcome here.
PS 14/15 of these rape jokes are funny. Since I don’t think you’re capable of telling bad jokes from good ones, I’ll tell you it’s #15 that’s not. And also yours. Your rape jokes are not funny.
*Edited because they go to University of South Florida, not University of Southern Florida.